My hatred of the NHS came when my wife gave birth to our girl, and the way she, a Med student at the time, was treated.
Instead of being by her side, I Literally had to spend the bulk of the birth fighting for Med staff to give her attention, to take her pain seriously. We hope to have another, and will hope to use a private hospital for it. Genuinely disgusting maternity care in ‘Duh Envee Ov Duh Wurld’ system.
It’s women without a partner or parent or friend to speak up for them who are most at risk.
That poor mum and baby 💔 The mum is living every parents worst nightmare.
The NHS is the biggest lie ever sold to the British people. An institution formed in order that Doctors get guaranteed payment. The whole thing needs tearing down. It will be and has always been poor! Like all of us, we all have horror stories of this institution- I am only glad that every time I had the misfortune to use it I have been awake.
Wife had both of ours at home. I had my reservations but her train of logic was that she’d rather have a midwife turn up and when needed and be let in a safe environment she knows and our nearest hospital was 45 mins away with few maternity places and the nearest after that is 90 mins away and was the Lucy letby hospital.
After hearing some of the horror stories from the newborn group, I was fully in support second time round. Less complications, it’s not the environment I would pick tbh.
4 hours is quite normal if there was no C section, and I don’t think there’s a postpartum mother who isn’t exhausted.
No mention of the father so I am assuming it’s a single mother? Bit too quick to blame the hospital I think, plenty of preventative things could have been done.
me and my partner are planning to have children soon and i’m terrified of having to do it on the NHS. considering saving up and going private but ultimately what does that do? these stories are all so horrific
My wife gave birth at the same hospital under similar conditions: 23hr labour with complications. They were not in any hurry to get us out the door and were allowing new mothers to leave when they felt they were ready.
Makes me wonder what has changed
Oh no that poor mother and baby. My heart is broken for them both. My sincere condolences to the family.
My wife and I have had two children both in NHS hospitals and they have been amazing births. Mid wife’s were amazing I cannot fault them.
This is horrific, but to blame the hospital is wrong. If there are no complications, there is no reason why mum has to stay in hospital for a long period after birth. Yes, new parents are tired. It comes with the territory and it sucks but being exhausted is not a reason to be in hospital, particularly when there are lots of other patients. I had the opposite experience because hospital wanted me to stay a second night to help with feeding and I wanted to go home because I was exhausted! Sleeping in the hospital was basically impossible with all the noise and a newborn. Saying that an apparently healthy newborn would be ‘monitored’ while mum sleeps in hospital also seems odd – we were basically left to our own devices unless we asked for help. There is support if you ask for it but they aren’t checking on the baby every 5 minutes purely so mum can sleep.
Sorry this is not an nhs failure, the mother fell asleep on her… tragic but not the fault of the NHS
“The baby and her parents were discharged home 4 hours after the birth – at 8.39am.”
Sadly it was probably poor communication on this point. Medical staff probably felt there was an adequate support network in place but for whatever reason she ended up on her own with her baby and exhausted.
Doesn’t surprise me. Maternity care is shit and many midwives are ideologically opposed to the so-called medicalisation of “natural birth” that used to kill women and babies regularly.
An obstetric consultant once told me that if you have a laparotomy (open abdominal surgery) for any other reason than a c section, there is no way someone would insist you take sole care of a newborn baby and make your own toast/drinks within the hour.
It was her way of explaining how shit and sexist maternity care is vs. care for other patients.
NHS have been getting more and more useless these last few years. They will only help you if you are dying, not when you are in pain they couldnt care less now they lettin babies die wtaf is happening with this shithole of a country
Holy shit that’s horrific. Both of our kids were born at that hospital, the first in very similar circumstances but pre-Covid. What an absolute tragic failure from the hospital.
I thought you could easily fund the NHS with all that brexit money ?
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My hatred of the NHS came when my wife gave birth to our girl, and the way she, a Med student at the time, was treated.
Instead of being by her side, I Literally had to spend the bulk of the birth fighting for Med staff to give her attention, to take her pain seriously. We hope to have another, and will hope to use a private hospital for it. Genuinely disgusting maternity care in ‘Duh Envee Ov Duh Wurld’ system.
It’s women without a partner or parent or friend to speak up for them who are most at risk.
That poor mum and baby 💔 The mum is living every parents worst nightmare.
The NHS is the biggest lie ever sold to the British people. An institution formed in order that Doctors get guaranteed payment. The whole thing needs tearing down. It will be and has always been poor! Like all of us, we all have horror stories of this institution- I am only glad that every time I had the misfortune to use it I have been awake.
Wife had both of ours at home. I had my reservations but her train of logic was that she’d rather have a midwife turn up and when needed and be let in a safe environment she knows and our nearest hospital was 45 mins away with few maternity places and the nearest after that is 90 mins away and was the Lucy letby hospital.
After hearing some of the horror stories from the newborn group, I was fully in support second time round. Less complications, it’s not the environment I would pick tbh.
4 hours is quite normal if there was no C section, and I don’t think there’s a postpartum mother who isn’t exhausted.
No mention of the father so I am assuming it’s a single mother? Bit too quick to blame the hospital I think, plenty of preventative things could have been done.
me and my partner are planning to have children soon and i’m terrified of having to do it on the NHS. considering saving up and going private but ultimately what does that do? these stories are all so horrific
My wife gave birth at the same hospital under similar conditions: 23hr labour with complications. They were not in any hurry to get us out the door and were allowing new mothers to leave when they felt they were ready.
Makes me wonder what has changed
Oh no that poor mother and baby. My heart is broken for them both. My sincere condolences to the family.
My wife and I have had two children both in NHS hospitals and they have been amazing births. Mid wife’s were amazing I cannot fault them.
This is horrific, but to blame the hospital is wrong. If there are no complications, there is no reason why mum has to stay in hospital for a long period after birth. Yes, new parents are tired. It comes with the territory and it sucks but being exhausted is not a reason to be in hospital, particularly when there are lots of other patients. I had the opposite experience because hospital wanted me to stay a second night to help with feeding and I wanted to go home because I was exhausted! Sleeping in the hospital was basically impossible with all the noise and a newborn. Saying that an apparently healthy newborn would be ‘monitored’ while mum sleeps in hospital also seems odd – we were basically left to our own devices unless we asked for help. There is support if you ask for it but they aren’t checking on the baby every 5 minutes purely so mum can sleep.
Sorry this is not an nhs failure, the mother fell asleep on her… tragic but not the fault of the NHS
“The baby and her parents were discharged home 4 hours after the birth – at 8.39am.”
Sadly it was probably poor communication on this point. Medical staff probably felt there was an adequate support network in place but for whatever reason she ended up on her own with her baby and exhausted.
Doesn’t surprise me. Maternity care is shit and many midwives are ideologically opposed to the so-called medicalisation of “natural birth” that used to kill women and babies regularly.
An obstetric consultant once told me that if you have a laparotomy (open abdominal surgery) for any other reason than a c section, there is no way someone would insist you take sole care of a newborn baby and make your own toast/drinks within the hour.
It was her way of explaining how shit and sexist maternity care is vs. care for other patients.
NHS have been getting more and more useless these last few years. They will only help you if you are dying, not when you are in pain they couldnt care less now they lettin babies die wtaf is happening with this shithole of a country
Holy shit that’s horrific. Both of our kids were born at that hospital, the first in very similar circumstances but pre-Covid. What an absolute tragic failure from the hospital.
I thought you could easily fund the NHS with all that brexit money ?