I pretended to be drunk to expose men’s predatory behaviour on TV

I pretended to be drunk to expose men’s predatory behaviour on TV



by ISteppedInSomething

26 comments

  1. > The incident began with a man repeatedly asking Ellie if she was okay, and offering his help, and inquiring if she had any friends. The conversation convinced Ellie he may have genuine concern. For this reason, she let the situation play out, rather than signalling for backup from her team. After more time had passed, the man began to place his hands on her body.

    People who use fake concern as a way to get close to and exploit others are monsters. Sociopathic behaviour.

  2. Yup yup yup… Predators will often circle places with a heavy night life pressence. All too common for an exceedingly drunk, or high, woman to stumble into the dark alone. Always has been a massive problem since night life culture became a thing many decades ago. But the local law enforcements in some of these areas tend to just shrug it off and victim blame for the most part.

  3. this shit goes on too fucking much. I am absolutely sickened by my fellow men and how they act towards women.

    the anxiety I get from hearing about many many many different people’s experiences and seeing stuff like this in the news so regularly would cause a heart murmur on a rhinoceros.

  4. Me and my friends met a very pissed woman in Cardiff that had lost her friends on a night out. We put her in a taxi and paid the driver to make sure he took her to her hotel. We all realised the danger. There are a ton of good people out there.

  5. I feel sick to my stomach knowing there are women who’ve been in these situations without being sober. How horrifying.

    This Ellie Goulding lookalike is doing a phenomenal job of raising awareness. Now, how we can we stop this happening?

  6. Over here in Tokyo, when I a woman who may be in a clearly vulnerable situation (due to alcohol) … I pass by , but stop at a nearby Koban (Police box) and let them know of the situation without giving my personal details.

    People may these days say “Mind your own business” or “Why didnt you help” … leaving that to someone who should be trusted to make that decision, seems to be the best approach without causing offense. What do you think ?

  7. Thank you to the men in this thread who are calling out the absolute offensive bullshit being spouted by other men in this thread.

  8. The working in groups behaviour I’ve witnessed firsthand, it was a professional footballer, and it was uncomfortably aggressive and got more aggressive as people started to intervene. He and his pals just didn’t seem bothered by the negative attention they were drawing, they wanted her in the taxi and that was it (she didn’t get in
    , but you have to wonder how many have under similar circumstances).

    The footballer in question has a reputation as being a jack the lad type and seems to be disappointingly popular, it was fucking horrifying to be near.

  9. Recently I was in a pub with a couple of female friends and an utter freak latched onto one of my friends. His behaviour ranged from trying to force himself into the seat next to her to standing staring at her.

    I asked him to stop politely. His response was “it’s not her asking me”. The other girl told him to “fuck off, you’re creeping us out” to which he replied the same ‘shes not saying that to me”’ to which I replied “she doesn’t need to, we don’t want you anywhere near us. Go away”

    Prick still wouldn’t leave us alone so I had him thrown out (I work there and have a great relationship with the owners) but I was so worried he would be out on the streets. It was a real eye opener and really fucking frightening.

  11. Many many moons ago I was out with some female friends, I was the only guy in the group, I was on vodka and cokes and they were on ciders and beers, someone slipped GHB into the vodka and coke thinking it was for one of the girls.

    Thankfully I have a very high resistance to most drugs so it took longer to take effect and I knew something wasn’t right and the group got me home, but that could so easily of been one of them.

    I contacted the place we went the day after to let them know what happened and they just replied, nothing we can do about it, the guy I spoke to really didn’t understand why I had such an issue with it.

    So glad the place shut down.

  12. Promising Young Woman is a great film about this. 

    In my view it’s casual dating that’s particularly risky. No way will you be believed if you agree to sleep with someone and suddenly they flip in private.

  13. If anyone is interested in a movie with the same premise, I’d recommend Promising Young Woman starring Carey Mulligan. Excellent movie – uncomfortable to watch at points and very effective in getting their point across.

  14. Wow such a response, so many comments effectively blaming women for ” doing what they want”.

    It’s 2024, as a guy I don’t think I should have to say this to other guys but here goes.

    If someone says leave them alone, and you think you can pressure them into an unwanted sexual interaction, you don’t have game, you’re not just having a laugh, it’s not how people used to get together. You’re just a predator

    *Stop assaulting women*

    …..and yes, let’s stop assaulting men too, but if you personally feel this must be explicitly called out at the same time, then you are part of the problem

  15. Cue all the men refusing to believe sexism actually exists and how it’s actually harder being a man because no way would a man ever be a creep to women, no way at all.

  16. My hometown has a street which is notorious for this behaviour. In the past couple of weeks there has been two news stories of men and women being raped and sexually assaulted, because people look for “easy” targets. Vultures. Both people targeted multiple people, it’s like a game for them.

  17. It’s not just drunk women passed out on the street either, only the other morning my daughter told me that she had forgotten she didn’t have enough pack up stuff in for her and my granddaughter the next day so ordered groceries on Just Eat.

    She said the driver seemed all smiley and polite and caught her off guard asking her if she wanted to get her husband to bring the heavy bags in. Of course she replied without thinking, I’m don’t have one, cue him instantly progressing to how such a pretty lady shouldn’t be on her own and what pretty boobs she has, can he come in for the loo, can he have a drink, would she have sex with him (I’m not writing the filth he was actually saying on here) all the time with a foot in her door.
    She only managed to get him to leave by starting to ring her friend on her phone.

    I told her instantly to report him to Just Eat and to the police but she’s refusing incase he gets sacked as he now knows where she lives. I’m scared stiff now something might happen to them in on their own.

  18. Trigger warning rape and SA.

    I was at a festival aged 15. I could go on the condition that my friends older cousin looked after us. I got smashed on the second night, was being annoying, and one of her male friends offered to take me for a walk to sober me up and get a cup of tea. He had to hold me up because I couldn’t walk. He raped me, he was 24.

    I got locked in, cornered and felt up by bouncers at an under 18s night. I was 16. The only reason they let me and my friends out was because her step Dad happened to be a bouncer and she name dropped and they let us go. We didn’t tell anyone because we’d been caught drinking vodka.

    Another time, I got in a taxi to go to a pub after a concert. It was a metal gig, I was wearing a leather jacket and corset top. The taxi driver pulled into an industrial estate and tried to elicit sex in exchange for the ride. I kicked off and he dragged me out of the taxi and threw me on the floor. I was 17.

    These are just a couple of stories but I’m 31 now. The last time I was groped in a club was last year, and the guy had been introduced to my husband ten minutes before. I’m not special looking, I’m not fit, I’m just a woman in public. It makes me sick how often this happens. We really need to take care of each other more.

  19. Yeah this isn’t really suprising . However it’s a lot rapier than when I was a younger woman (and it was shit then !) . Boundaries don’t even exist . I’ll assume that ready acess to free porn has made a certain group of men feel more able , allowed ? to smash and grab . It’s pretty grim to watch this unfold

  20. One thing I do find really weird is like when you see some attractive girl on Insta or similar and you get the most perverted comments from blokes – like what is that achieving? It’s just incredibly weird.

  21. I had this recommended on YouTube so I’m currently watching it, open up reddit to scroll aimlessly and this comes up

  22. Today I went to Tesco on my break mid shift. I left at the same time as a young woman about the same age as me. We both left the shop at the same time. And I was walking behind her as I was going in the same direction. (If your a man you’ll understand it’s always a bit awkward when this happens because your aware the woman is probably on edge etc but to a woman I totally get it’s a much more serious issue and obviously always try to switch sides etc) I just so happened to be walking behind her and I noticed that she was making a fake phone call and looking back at me. And to be honest it genuinely made me fucking ashamed, that even in a really safe neighbourhood like mine women don’t feel safe. We honestly have to do better as a society and as men.

  24. It’s messed up how many people behave like this.
    Hopefully as we evolve as a species it will decrease.
    Old heads please tell me it’s better now than it was in the 90s?

  25. I thought this was going to be that Russian youtuber guy with the muscles, vlad(?) Who dresses as a woman and goes to dangerous places, interesting character.

  26. Why don’t these documentaries ever show the women who are blatantly drunk and don’t deserve the help? The amount of times I’ve offered to help a woman who’s been left on her own, to realise she probably deserved it after being aggressive with a cab driver and being racist for no reason at all. Maybe don’t drink excessively and maybe you won’t get yourself into dangerous situations

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