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Celebrating the tenth anniversary of same-sex marriage in England and Wales, Tom Allen explores the fight for equal marriage and arranges a dream wedding for one lucky couple.
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I can recount versions of that
Sandi Toksvig = Legend
God! That is so sad, so devastatingly sad
I think this actually shows the importance of abolishing marriage and coming up with a fairer and more affordable option for people to tie up the legalities if their lives
Sounds like we should have just placed special status on civil unions so that the gay couple could get certain rights, but marriage may not have been necessary
What an important story. ❤ John & Stephen
Sad
That's just shocking and heartless
Is the story true ?
this is the logic that inspires the likes of dylan mulvaney
What a heartbreaking story of misunderstanding and cruelty.
Utterly heartbreaking 💔
I hope they are ashamed
It’s really sad that this isn’t the first time I’ve heard a story like this. Even in death, people are a point not a person.
What a tragic story… the family were so wrong to do this to their son heartbreaking 💔
Jesus wept
Stephen didn't exist.
God bless that family for keeping that weirdo away from their family as best they could.
Marriage = one man, one woman. Always.
Unbelievable, so sad
This just left me in tears. NO one should have to face this sort of cruel injustice! We are ALL Human! Let us LOVE how we love ❤️
Stephen's family clearly did not love Stephen or respect him.
John was a loving man and a true gentleman.
Oh please. This type of thing happens to families all the time — regardless of sexual orientation.
Never heard of power of attorney? Draw up a legal contract then. Why insist on adopting a heterosexual, sacred religious tradition of marriage then?
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In our culture differences are accepted as part of life. Im pretty sure NZers would accept differences too. We are a small country and dont have the social issues of gendering. Be anything you want. Its your life but dont make me be what you say i need to be. 😊
Absolutely!! It was 2 films that made this exact point to me. Brokeback mountain and A single man, both set in 50s- 60s. Both protagonists had no rights forever over their dead lovers wishes. I knew then how gay marriage was so crucial to the human rights of gay people.
So incredibly heartbreaking.
I am not a gay person at all but that is just wrong .. heartless is a better term.
As a teen I watched a movie about a gay man and at the end his partner was taken away in an ambulance and he wasn’t allowed in or see him at the hospital. I can’t remember much else of that film but that part really stuck with me.
Watch Bridegroom exact same thing. It is heart breaking. It happened four years short of marriage equality happening in America. In bridegroom only got to say goodbye to in the morgue because one of the nurses had compassion and understood the loss. His family threatened to kill him if he showed up at the funeral.
How dare they treat him like that! So ridiculous!
That is absolutely appalling. That ‘family’ really didn’t know what that word even meant.
That poor man. What a terrible family.
It’s 2021 during Covid and by that time my partner and I were together for 10 years. We were not living in the same house but anyway. We FaceTimed a couple of hours earlier, we laughed and said we would talk later. All of a sudden I got a phone call from a hospital asking “if I know this person” or his family, (we were not out to our families,some relatives knew but not the core family). I learnt that he died by accident. Because my call was the last one on his phone which they must have unlocked with his fingerprint. I did not attend his funeral because I didn’t know where that happened. It was only then that I understood why visibility is so important. His family was/is wonderful, I don’t know why we were not out to them. To this day I’m in contact with some of them.
Don't ever do the right thing❤
Hold up, this has NOTHING to do with being married or not. Steven could have gotten an Advance Directive for John to malr medical decisions – including who can see the patient. As for the funeral, why? As in, why did John need to attend the funeral? He could have gone to quietly see Steven before the funeral and visited the grave forevermore. Stop making excuses for wanting what has always been GOD-ordained, marriage is between a man and a woman. I am married; haven't seen my spouse since Nov 2009, two-thousand nine (in court). The USA Army refuses to tell me where he is, and refuses to give me my rightful benefits – yet, they do say, we are still legally married. This is why I say man-made "marriage" is a farce. There are ways to do things without a ring and marriage certificate. How about you campaign for many abandoned military spouses? I cannot get a judge to grant the divorce because he's in the military (Sailor Soldier Act). So unless he shows-up or has an atty show-up with a full General Power of Attorney, to make all decisions for their (jerk) client, no judge will finalize this misery! A government marriage, is a farce – a money-making scheme. John can be thankful for the 20 years he had Steven all to himself – this is the silver-lining.
That broke my heart. ❤️🩹
Such a very strong argument for same sex marriage.
Sandi is a good one that's for sure. What a beautiful person!
So not because he was gay but because they were not married ?
This story is not an isolated incident. The misery that was inflicted is horrible. The series It's A Sin had elements of this. Families wanted to airbrush lives out of existence, whilst with hypocrisy crying for someone they claimed to love.
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There are so many stories like this one. Marriage ensures that we are in the presence of genuine love as we live and as we die.
I'm a nurse in Palm Springs. It's shameful how often this happens. The people who chose judgement over family take away the only people who've lived and supported them after they've been abandoned by "family". I'm also the nurse who hopes for something spectacularly shitty to happen to them. 🤷♀️
Families who don't love eachother shouldn't have a say in things like this, they're clearly psychopaths
There is a difference between marriage and a civil union. I think civil union should be open to all but marriage is a religious practice and each religion has their own practices and the state should not intervene.
You know what's funny, is that the BBC YouTube short will put the sad emoji face on here, and have this lady tell her story about how hard it is for this particular gay man, but openly publish and push narratives that target, harm, and harass trans people…
Understanding is key. We are what we are